Showing posts with label Self-independence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Self-independence. Show all posts
Friday was my first day of experiencing the life of a working adult. First day of work is usually the induction, get to know your colleagues and superiors, so work hasn't taken a toll on me, yet. Having my own working desk and taking on significant responsibilities for the company sure is a wholesome package for me. But, good things don't come easy and I pray for the strength and faith to get me through and towards my career goal. 

Prove my own worth.

At times, I just stare out of the window & affix my eyes on no particular thing in preference. In this way, I rest my worn out mind. Staring into blank is a form of relaxation. Thereafter, my mind starts wandering & wondering. 

The direction of my thoughts today. I may be emotional but I'm a true believer of self-independence. Sometimes, I blurred the lines of being self-independent and being distant. I snap out within a split second. If I don't feel needed or required, I turn & walk straight out, without a tinge of emptiness or reluctance. But if a situation or person reveals their appreciation of my presence, I devote my best without any reservation. Believing in my self worth, I don't depend my happiness on anyone because I find happiness in too many things. The mere sight of fluffy clouds, my parents' squabbling, an elderly couple holding hands, a smile from a stranger, a pedestrian jay-walking hastily. Anything, anyone, any scent, any sound, I find a reason to discover the happiness in it. 

Someone once told me I'm pessimistic, but I'd say perhaps you don't know me well enough, perhaps you haven't seen my unexpected & unexplained smile when I'm out alone. I'm reticent about expressing my inner thoughts out loud, so I'm not surprised if anyone thought they understand me, in my entirety. 
I'd like to decipher the string of events as, a lucky fate. Then again, instead of releasing sighs of relief, I'm wallowing in despair because of a planned getaway that isn't going along with my flow. I'm still constantly checking the budget airlines for the sales, wanting desperately to click the 'Book' button while knowing that I can't commit to a getaway any time soon. Not until I can confirm on a date that is definitely not going to clash with my (new job?). 

See, that's the thing. I'm stucked in an awkward time frame with all the 'unconfirmed'(s). Getting the job is unconfirmed. Commencement of the job is unconfirmed. These unconfirmed factors that cost me my opportunity to confirm a getaway. 

But well, at least it's going with the flow of reality, the flow of adulthood, the flow of my first steady income (unconfirmed). 
8 of Feb: my birthday

On Friday night, Redbull & I went to New Udon Thai for their mookata cause he was craving for it and has told me one week ago. Halfway through the fattening yet hard to resist supper, Shell ran towards our table, yelling 'HELLO' followed by the rest casually strolling in. Stunned. Very stunned. Swear my life took on a freeze mode at that point. I was staring at them with a silly smile hanging on my face while trying to piece the puzzle together.

Shell? Thought she was at KL? Eh, why is Freeman here? Wait, wingyin is here too. Janice too. Huh? All came for mookata? Why is Alvin grinning sheepishly as if he accomplished something? Is that something this? This surprise for my birthday? YES IT IS! My mind was processing info 10x slower than usual.

I was really taken aback as long were those days where we always planned birthday surprises for each other so for many years I was definitely not in the state of preparing myself for a surprise. A really successful surprise and I'm really touched for my gfs' presence and all these wouldn't have taken place if not for Shell's meticulous idea. 


A simple wish every single year.

The cake baked by Redbull which was also the first cake he baked for me before we were together.

Not forgetting my favorite DIY card from him.

The whole of Saturday was dedicated to a trip to Adventure Cove.





"Almost there. Almost there!"


FINALLY. At the entrance of Adv Cove.

Put my waterproof pouch to good use.
To GOOD use, that was what I thought initially.

The last few photos before I realized the real 'good' news.




GOOD NEWS WAS
I forgot to zip the pouch!
So smart I deserve a standing ovation for this.
While I was happily snapping away, my phone was enjoying the taste of Adv Cove's waters...

Saturnight with family with my Heroine whipping up my special orders of the food I love.

Cheesy mussels prawns.

Saba fillet

Lalaaaa

The two charms my family got for me with my siblings hooking them on for me.

My birthday meal with him at Miam Miam on Sunday. Though this was at the bottom of my to-visit-list, I'm glad it didn't disappoint despite me feeling angst due to the unavailable souffle au curry that was the only one I wanted to try. 


His main

And mine. Squid ink baked rice. The saltiness isn't too overwhelming and the taste of seafood is relatively pungent. 

One year older and I hope I'm one year wiser too. A contradicting feeling when it comes to facing the reality of officially stepping into the working society. The fear of not knowing what to expect. The fear of judgmental beings. The fear of inferiority to other job candidates. What job opportunities would come my way? What range of salary would I settle for for my very first permanent job? So many more questions which I guess can only be answered when I finally come face to face with the frame of decision making. Headache. 

Let's pray that I'll be blessed in this upcoming phase of my life. 
My 2 best ladies always bring out the best in me: the me who is best in laughing and behaving hysterically. With them, I'm no one else but myself. Not having to worry about upsetting them with my blatant views or not living up to the expectations they have of me cause they expect nothing but my genuine heart. So carefree I feel like a bird except without a pair of feathery wings. 
No boundaries, no limitations. That's why best friends provide the BEST companionship whenever I'm in need of an emotional therapy.  

Relationships have letdowns, heartaches and things/words we can't do/say. Families are a real comfort zone which will never abandon you even at the most dire straits but for me, there's an inevitable feeling of having to live up to expectations so as to not them down in any way. 
For me, true friendship has none of those emotional baggages/barriers. Absolutely nothing but happiness ringing at the back of my head when I'm in their hands. 

The amount each of us paid for a Saturday meal at Sushi Tei was very reasonable given the variety of fresh and delicious dishes we ordered (except for WY who has an amazing small appetite). 

My main: Akashi Cheese Pasta. 

Janice's Main: Omelette with noodles which she described as hokkien mee, of course the yummy version. 

The pregnant fish: Ms. Shishamo

Mango Cod Roe Sushi

Salmon Sushi with the generous layer of salmon melting in our mouths instantly.


Spontaneity got the best of me when I suggested a walk from JEM back home. No, it wasn't as bad as it sounds and actually, it wasn't bad at all. It felt nothing like the longest walkathon, not when we had endless conversations lighting up all the dark neighbourhoods that we passed by. (ps: the walk from Jurong East to Boon Lay took less than an hour despite our deliberately slow walking pace) Dropped by WY's house for the 6 Tinkerjoys she bought for Janice and so we found ourselves munching on chocolate at 12AM in hope of getting the Tinkerbell toy. Despite not getting the main lead, the night has served us well with food and laughters.


It was last week when I clearly realized that I do practice what I've always preached to my girlfriends: that we can be truly happy despite feeling/being alone. I no longer depend on anyone for happiness because that's a risk too big to take. People can bring additional happiness into my life, but the foundation of happiness is what I've laid it down by myself so if any of these people leaves, I don't find myself looking like a pathetic fool struggling to search for happiness all over again.
Everyday texting to which no replies will be received; it's equivalent to speaking to myself but I know you're out there listening to me. Day 3 of your field camp, day 3 of us not communicating. I've heard people say that you can find love amid silence & I'm starting to believe in this absurdly true saying.

School, work & extra external assignments have been occupying my mind but yet you always find plenty of room to fit in too. It's as if despite the crowd in my mind, there'll always be a 'Specially Reserved' spot for no one else, but you.

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