Exactly one week since you've left and this is the first time you came back to me in my dreams. The dream reflected the reality: in it, you've left too. But you came back to us every single night without fail, running around in the house being your usual active & curious self, occasionally climbing onto my legs like you did in the past. I could touch and feel you in my dreams. That virtual reality... I could almost feel you, almost.
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Back to where it makes me sick to my stomach, again. Seeing/knowing the minute respect people give to their parents according to their temperament, always makes me cringe. I swallowed my opinions, when I'm not even one who does, just to put a halt to my outburst of temper.
What's the point of being able to sing along to your favorite songs, to laugh at your favorite variety shows/dramas, to download (illegally) movies/songs from your laptop when you don't even give the due respect to the ones who paid for the monthly Ethernet subscription fee?
What's the point of being able to doze off on your bed, hang the new clothes that you bought in your closet when you don't even give the due respect to the ones who provide this roof over your head?
What's the point of knowing to have the most basic politeness towards those in the customer service line when you don't even shower such fundamental courtesy to your own parents?
What's the point of growing up healthily when you don't even give the due respect to the ones who gave you this life?
They're hitting their fifties while we're just about to step into adulthood. The time they've spent raising us up, the hardship they're going through just to ensure we've a comfortable & stable roof over our heads. Sure we don't live luxuriously, but at least we don't have to worry about food & accommodation. They slog their guts out for us. Their work is purely physical. Imagine you at their age, having going through such physical labor for more than half of your life, imagine the toll it does to your physique. If all these aren't worth the biggest respect they deserve, I don't know what is.
We all know life has an expiry date, we just don't know when that is and it's because of this uncertainty coupled with the limited lifespan that should make us fear and in turn cherish them when they're still able to see us. What if you wake up one day to find them gone? What if you wake up one day to your own parents who don't recognize who you are? Just what if? By then, it'd all be too late. Too late for you to reciprocate to them in ways they best deserve.

“Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves.
This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently.
I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn't solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place. I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place.
As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am.”
(via tumblr)
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